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6 www.DesertMessenger.com April 17, 2019 "Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are magic keys to living your life with integrity. ~W. Celment Stone DESERT MESSENGER Quartzsite's FREE Community Paper Proud to be a Quartzsite Licensed Business 928-916-4235 O� T��� - E���� T���! Founded by Walt Akin October 1, 2004 P�������� �� P���� R��� P��������� C�. P.O. Box 3185 Quartzsite, AZ 85359 P�������� ����� � ����� 1st & 3rd Wednesday Sept. thru May with Special Summer Editions June, July & August EDITOR/PUBLISHER Shanana "Rain" Golden-Bear CONTRIBUTING JOURNALIST Joanne Winer GUEST COLUMNIST Gypsy Jane Finley CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHER Starr BearCat NAME PLATE LETTERING Paul Winer www.DesertMessenger.com www.MyQuartzsite.com E-mail: Editor@DesertMessenger.com 2018 © Copyright All Rights Reserved Copyright 2013 Opinions expressed herein are not necessarily those of the Desert Messenger. LIKE US on Facebook.com/ DesertMessengerNews FOLLOW US on Twitter @QuartzsiteRain Neighborhood Watch to meet Thurs. MAY 2nd Town of Quartzsite invites every- one to attend the next meeting of Neighborhood Watch at 6:00 PM, on THURSDAY, MAY 2, 2019, at the Quartzsite Community Center. For more information contact the Quartzsite Police Department at 928-927-4644. DEADLINE : WED. APRIL 24 TH for the may 2 nd edition Desert Messenger News Email: editor@DesertMessenger.com 928-916-4235 www.DesertMessenger.com County Landfill Transfer Station now on Summer Hours The Quartzsite Transfer Station is now on their SUMMER hours. They are open Sunday thru Tuesday, 6:00am to 1:00pm. Summer hours are from April 1 thru Sept. 30. Dump your trash for free at the Transfer Station. Please cover your load. For more info call the Main landfi ll 928-916-1253 or Main offi ce at 928-854-9152. The transfer sta- tion is located north of Town, just off Hwy. 95, near the Sewer Treat- ment Plant. We want dates of your events planned for NEXT SEASON! SUBMIT FOR FREE at www.QuartzsiteCalendar.com By Shanana "Rain" Golden-Bear Corner of Moon Mt. & Cowell • Quartzsite • 928-927-5400 QUARTZSITE'S ONLY YEAR ROUND SALON - MON-FRI Cheyanne, Debbi, and Sheryl ARE HERE FOR YOUR OPEN YEAR ROUND! Hair, Nails, and Pedicure Services I remember the fi rst time I stood up to my step-father telling him, "No." I ended up on the fl oor with a dis- jointed jaw that causes me problems to this day. The universe gave me a gift; because I will always remem- ber that moment when I fi rst took a stand against oppression and began reclaiming my voice. I could have allowed myself to be paralyzed by the fear raised from that experience. But I chose another path, the one of learning how to communicate in a peaceful manner. All throughout history, people have faced adversity and come out victo- rious but only because they faced up to the pain and if you choose to do the same you will be surprised when you come out on top. Have you ever felt like a doormat? • Saying no doesn't mean that you are being rude, selfi sh, or unkind. • Realize that you are valuable and choosing your own opinion about yourself over others. If you live your life depending on other people's ap- proval, you will never feel free and truly happy. • Is it really worth it? This step to learning to say no is deciding if say- ing yes is really worth it. • Practice saying no. "No" period. Imagine a scenario and then practice saying no either by yourself or with a friend. This will get you feeling a lot more comfortable with saying no. • Be direct, such as "no, I can't" or "no, I don't want to." • Don't apologize and give all sorts of reasons. • Don't lie. Lying will most likely lead to guilt—and remember, this is what you are trying to avoid feeling. • Remember that it is better to say no now than be resentful later. When you learn to say YES to the good stuff by saying NO to all the other stuff, you will develop clarity in your life and compassion for others. "If something is not a 'hell, YEAH!', then it's a 'no!'" ~ James Altucher

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