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2B Daily News – Friday, February 15, 2013 FEATURES Man wants to save marriage, wife not in love Control blood levels, relationship. But you cannot Dear Annie: My wife do it alone. Please continue and I are having marital with counseling. If your problems. Our issues startwife wants to work on the ed when I caught her lying marriage, she will come to me and talking privately along and make the neceson the phone to my best sary effort. But if she is friend of 12 years — the unwilling, the counselor same guy who was the best will help you forge your man at my wedding. After arguing for a few days, I Annie's own path. Dear Annie: Would you asked her to make a sincere please define ''immediate effort to go for counseling, and she agreed. I also asked by Kathy Mitchell family''? My granddaughter her to stop speaking to my and Marcy Sugar is getting married in May. She is inviting ''immediate friend during the time we are trying to repair our marriage. family only,'' thus excluding my daughter (her aunt) and my daughShe agreed to that, too. However, this guy messages her ter-in-law's sister. This is going to cause a lot of on Facebook, and she still reads his comments. We went to our first hurt feelings and might even create counseling session, and I felt it went a split in the family. I am invited, well. But when we got home, I real- but not my male friend of 14 years. ized that she was having doubts. I have talked to my son, the father She finally said she had not been in of the bride, but he does not want to get involved. love with me for five years. Our side of the family is not as Annie, we have a beautiful 16month-old baby girl. I want to large as the groom's. My ex-husrepair our marriage for our child's band (the grandfather) will not be sake, as well as for us. What should attending. Why can't my daughter I do? Can marriage counseling help take his place? What about my if there's no love? — Dying in New daughter's husband? My relationship with my granddaughter is very York Dear New York: Marriage coun- close, so I don't understand this, seling can help if there once was and it's causing tremendous stress. love that can be recaptured, or if Please advise. — Gram Dear Gram: ''Immediate famiboth parties are dedicated to making the marriage work. A compatible ly'' refers to the bridal couple's parmarriage doesn't necessarily ents and siblings. (If the bride and require passion for each other, only groom have children, they would a commitment to the stability of the also be part of the immediate fami- Mailbox ly.) Grandparents are usually included as ''immediate family,'' but not aunts, uncles, cousins, inlaws or other relatives. Your companion of 14 years should be invited because the two of you are an established couple. If your daughter is invited, her husband should be, as well. Your granddaughter gets to determine her side of the wedding list. Although we understand how painful this is for you, as long as ALL aunts, uncles and cousins are excluded, it is equitable. Dear Anne: The replies to ''Your Husband,'' who made excuses for his extramarital adventures, left out a third option besides suffering with no sex and having affairs. Masturbation can keep those guys who feel they will die of frustration from wandering. I used to think of masturbation as cheating on my wife, but no longer. After 50 years, we are still partners in every other way, and we still hold hands in bed. I am not looking for a replacement ''as long as we both shall live.'' — Old Codger Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Taxable and nontaxable income Most types of income are taxable, but some are not. Income can include money, property or services that you receive. Here are some examples of income that are usually not taxable: • Child support payments; • Gifts, bequests and inheritances; • Welfare benefits; • Damage awards for physical injury or sickness; • Cash rebates from a dealer or manufacturer for an item you buy; and • Reimbursements for qualified adoption expens- es. Some income is not taxable except under certain conditions. Examples include: • Life insurance proceeds paid to you because of an insured person's death are usually not taxable. However, if you redeem a life insurance policy for cash, any amount that is more than the cost of the policy is taxable. • Income you get from a qualified scholarship is normally not taxable. Amounts you use for certain costs, such as tuition and required course books, are not taxable. However, amounts used for room and board are taxable. All income, such as wages and tips, is taxable unless the law specifically excludes it. This includes non-cash income from bartering - the exchange of property or services. Both parties must include the fair market value of goods or services received as income on their tax return. If you received a refund, credit or offset of state or local income taxes in 2012, you may be required to report this amount. If you did not receive a 2012 Form 1099-G, check with the government agency that made the payments to you. That agency may have made the form available only in an electronic format. You will need to get instructions from the agency to retrieve this document. Report any taxable refund you received even if you did not receive Form 1099-G. For more information and examples, see Publication 525, Taxable and Nontaxable Income. The booklet is available at IRS.gov or by calling 800TAX-FORM (800-8293676). Annual Spring Plant Sale set for April 11-13 The public is invited to help support Shasta College's Horticulture Program and students by attending the 42nd annual Spring Plant Sale, from 8 a.m.-5 p.m. April 11-12 and 9 a.m.-4 p.m.April 13 at the Horticultural area on the Shasta College Farm. Students from the nursery management class will be building displays to showcase a variety of plants that will be for sale. Horticulture Students, Master Gardeners and Native Plant experts will be on hand to answer questions. The sale will feature annual flowering plants, perennials, herb and vegetable plants, berries, trees, shrubs, California native plants and house plants. Varieties are selected to do well in the local climate. All plants are grown using sustainable practices. The California Native Plant Society (CNPS) will also sell plants at the sale. For more information visit www.shastacollege.edu, or call the Horticulture Department at 242-2210. avoid kidney damage body. (I've put an DEAR DOCillustration on my TOR K: I have website, AskDocType 2 diabetes. torK.com.) My doctor said that The best way kidney disease is a to avoid diabetes potential long-term complications is complication of to keep your diabetes. What's blood sugar levels the connection Dr. K as close to normal between the two? by Anthony L. as possible. DEAR READER: People with Komaroff, M.D. Adjust your therapy if your HbA1c diabetes have elevated levels of blood sugar. level (which measures Left untreated or poorly average blood sugar levtreated, diabetes can cause els over a three-month serious complications, period) is 7 percent or such as eye, nerve and kid- higher. And keep your ney damage. An important blood pressure under cause of all these compli- 130/80 mm Hg. This, too, cations is high blood sugar helps prevent kidney levels over many years. damage. Many years ago, I had Other factors, such as high blood pressure, also con- a patient, Jane, with diabetes who was showing tribute. But the long-term con- early signs of kidney dissequences of diabetes are ease. She was not very not inevitable. They can be careful about measuring prevented through tight her blood sugar, nor about taking her diabetes mediblood sugar control. High levels of blood cines. Since early kidney sugar injure the walls of disease generally doesn't small blood vessels. They cause symptoms, she felt thicken and leak. The ves- fine. I introduced her to sels may eventually clog, blocking blood flow to another patient of mine, Barbara, who also had not vital organs. You asked about kidney been careful about her disease. The main function treatment, and who went of the kidneys is to filter on to develop end-stage failure. She out toxic substances and kidney waste matter from blood so required kidney dialysis they get flushed out of the treatments three times a body when we pass urine. week to keep her alive. Barbara told Jane: And they keep important proteins and other useful "These dialysis treatsubstances inside the body. ments are keeping me They also regulate fluid, alive. But it's still a pain salt and other minerals, so in the *** to lie here three that just the right amounts times a week for several of each remain in the body. hours while the machine The filtering work is done works on my blood. And I by glomeruli, delicate net- don't feel all that good. works of tiny blood ves- I'm alive, but that's about it." sels. Jane started to get When the blood vessels that form the glomeruli — more serious about her the filters — thicken, they diabetes and never develbegin to fail at their job. oped kidney failure. She Protein leaks into the was glad I'd introduced urine. Fluid, salt and some her to Barbara. other minerals build up in Dr. Komaroff is a the body. In addition, the dam- physician and professor Harvard Medical aged glomeruli stop filter- at To send ing out wastes and toxins School. go to reliably. These wastes and questions, or toxins build up in the AskDoctorK.com, bloodstream, causing write: Ask Doctor K, 10 damage to tissues and Shattuck St., Second organs throughout the Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Community Clip? e-mail: clerk@redbluffdailynews.com Nor-Cal Shrine Club Screening Clinic March 2 Nor-Cal Shrine Club will host a free screening clinic for children 0-18 years of age to determine their eligibility for treatment at the Shrine Hospital. The children will be examined by a volunteer, local health care professional. The clinic will assess a variety of orthopedic and other ailments including scoliosis, dislocated hips, club feet, cerebral palsy, rickets, fractures, burn scars, head injuries, sport injuries to bones, muscles or tendons, hand, leg or back problems, birthmarks, abnormal skin growths and congenital ear deformities. The clinic is scheduled for March 2, 2013, from 9:00 am to 1 p.m. at the Shasta Community Health Center, 1035 Placer St. Redding. For more information call Monte Fitchett, Screening Clinic Chairman at 246-4940 or E-mail at etnom33@gmail.com. Information is also available by calling 527-0533 for the Tehama County area or 1(800) 237-5055 for nonEnglish speakers.