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4B Daily News – Wednesday, February 6, 2013 FEATURES Brother throws all away because of drugs Take steps to monitor ting married soon. The wedDear Annie: I'm a ding will take place in mother in my mid-20s and Canada. My husband and I a very concerned sister. My do not own passports, nor brother, ''Dennis,'' is four would we ever buy them, years younger and the first because they are expensive to graduate high school. He and we would never use went to college and had them again. We have traveverything going for him. eled to other family wedNow he is throwing it all Annie's dings within the United away. States, but we don't feel we Dennis turned to drugs should be pressured to and has missed important moments in our lives, such by Kathy Mitchell attend a wedding out of the as weddings and holidays. and Marcy Sugar country. We can't afford it. Do you think we are He only shows up at my mother's or grandmother's house required to be there? — Soon To to take a shower, and then he goes Be Family Outcast Dear Soon: No. You are not out again. My family and I are trying so hard to point him back in the obligated to attend any wedding, and certainly not one that is right direction. Two months ago, I had to have beyond your financial means. Dennis arrested for assaulting me. While we believe family members We are all worried that something should make an effort to attend one terrible is going to happen. There another's special events, it should are times when he is completely not require overextending yourout of it and doesn't know what's selves. Send your regrets and a going on. What do we do? — Wor- nice gift to make up for your absence. ried Family in Illinois Dear Annie: I read the letter Dear Worried: It is a nightmare when a family member is on drugs, from ''Need Your Input,'' the idiot because there is little you can do. who was critical of his girlfriend's Your brother must want to stop and Southern drawl. He shouldn't wait be willing to get appropriate treat- until she moves north. She ment. He's not there yet. It is deserves to know now that he is a important that your family mem- passive-aggressive loser. Who would presume to tell a bers protect themselves while being open to any genuine efforts grown woman that her accent is your brother makes to get clean. If offensive? I could understand if it he is in college, notify the coun- were a grammar issue or if her lanselors there, and contact Nar-Anon guage were laced with profanities, but her speech pattern is who she (nar-anon.org) for support. Dear Annie: My nephew is get- is. And she will not ''lose'' it if she Mailbox moves north. It may soften slightly, but it will never go away completely. Clearly, this guy has other issues. If he truly cared for her, this accent would not bother him. In fact, most folks find a Southern accent delightful. It is soothing, relaxing and way sexy. I surely hope this lady discovers who this jerk really is before she changes her life for him. — A Yankee in North Carolina Dear Yankee: We agree that if he cannot tolerate her accent, he should not stay in the relationship. But it is not uncommon for people to find one particular trait annoying, no matter how much they otherwise care for a person. And it's a highly individual degree of preference and tolerance. You love your boyfriend, but think the way he gestures with his hands is appalling. You adore your girlfriend, but she speaks too softly for your taste. These are neither negative nor positive traits to others. This particular guy finds this particular drawl to be grating. He needs to figure out how important it is to him in the grand scheme of his relationship. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. Lassen to enhance connections to youth In looking towards the future, Lassen Volcanic National Park is in the planning phase to create a camping facility which will provide greater opportunities for youth groups to camp, explore and experience their park. Crags Campground, located just 4.4 miles from the Manzanita Lake Entrance Station, has been the site of numerous camping adventures by children participating in Lassen Park Foundation's Youth Camping Program. For the past 16 years, this program has supported non-profit youth groups that serve at-risk or underserved youth by awarding scholarships to assist with camping costs. Many of these young participants have never camped or visited a national park before participating in the youth camping program. The new youth camping facility will create deep connections between a younger generation and the park through outdoor immersion. A wide range of youth organizations including school groups, educational groups, and scouting organizations will be encouraged to use this designated facility to introduce children to their national park. The Crags Youth Camp is slated to open in 2016, in time for Lassen Volcanic National Park's 100th Anniversary. The existing Crags Camp- Through the Newspapers in Education program, area classrooms receive the Red Bluff Daily News every day thanks to the generosity of these local businesses & individuals. 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For more information, please visit the park website at www.nps.gov/lavo/forkid s/youth-camping. elderly parents tors. Ask friends, DEAR DOCrelatives and TOR K: How can neighbors to alert I help care for my you if anything elderly mother? seems worrisome. She lives alone, — Keep helpbut not close ful numbers enough for me to handy. Put togethvisit regularly. er a single list of DEAR READdoctors, social ER: My father Dr. K workers, neighdied young, but by Anthony L. my mother lived Komaroff, M.D. bors, friends and helpful agencies. into her late 70s. — Arrange necessary She lived 3,000 miles away, and alone. As she services. When possible, started to lose some of her interview and hire people, energy and independence, such as home nursing it was pretty stressful for staff, in person. If you're me. You just can't know far enough away like I what's going on with the was, that isn't always posperson you love. Super- sible. Arrange for nonvising care and handling health services, such as grocery problems that arise are landscaping, delivery and cleaning serdifficult, too. Here are some tips I vices, as well. — Keep tabs on followed. I hope they can ease some of your diffi- finances. Check financial statements to stay culties: — Book regular trips. apprised of any possible When you visit your problems or financial mother, try to arrive at the abuse. — Hire a geriatric-care beginning of the week. That way, you'll have sev- manager located in your eral weekdays to handle mother's area. That can problems and line up ser- lift a large weight off your vices. Call ahead to make shoulders. He or she can appointments if you plan help cut through red tape to research caregivers or and efficiently coordinate care. Your mother's doctor nursing homes. — If you're checking may have some recomup on caregivers already mendations. A neighbor checked in in place, it may be better not to give advance notice. with my mother every day, When you arrive, look and vice versa. If my around and ask yourself: mother was going to be How is your mother away, she let the neighbor doing? Is the house clean? know. They were good Are pantry and fridge and trusted friends. The shelves well stocked? Are neighbor had a key to my mother's apartment. bills being paid? One day, my mother — Take some time to organize important didn't answer the phone papers. If possible, make when the neighbor called. copies of these documents Mom's car was in the to take home, or at least garage. The neighbor note where this informa- entered her apartment and discovered that she had tion is kept. — Set up a safety net. died in her sleep the night Give neighbors or friends a before. Her loss hit me set of house keys. Look hard, but that was how she into medical alert systems, wanted to go. And I took such as a pendant your comfort in knowing she mother can press if she falls had felt safe and secure in or needs help in an emer- the last years of her life. gency. I did that with my Dr. Komaroff is a mother. Although she never had to use it, know- physician and professor at ing it was there was a Harvard Medical School. source of great comfort to To send questions, go to her and to me. Have a reg- AskDoctorK.com, or write: ular phone-in time to check Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck that everything is fine. St., Second Floor, Boston, Arrange for regular visi- MA 02115. Tri-County Sams January brunch and meeting The Tri-County Sams Chapter of the Good Sam Club held the January Brunch and Meeting at the Rolling Hills Casino Buffet in Corning with eight rigs represented, one guest rig and one other guest in attendance. 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