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4B Daily News – Saturday, January 12, 2013 FEATURES Parents worry about far flung offspring Healthy life can help daughter and assess the situDear Annie: Our ation. You also might want daughter is going down a to alert Lana's school to the bad road, and our 13-yearhome issues. There is supold granddaughter, ''Lana,'' port for friends and relatives is in the driver's seat. of addicted children. ConLana has been diagnosed tact Nar-Anon (narwith ADHD, but since we anon.org) at 800-477-6291. live in another state, we Dear Annie: For the past have no way of knowing whether she's staying on Annie's 30 years, my brother-in-law, ''Bob,'' has spent the holiher meds. I've heard from days with us, staying for a my wife that Lana has been destroying furniture and is by Kathy Mitchell week or more. He has never physically and verbally and Marcy Sugar offered to take us out to lunch, dinner or anything abusing her mother. At one point, she snatched her mom's cell- else. In fact, the last time we went phone out of her hand while she out together, he somehow left his credit card at home when the bill was calling for help. Here's another layer of trouble: arrived, so we paid, as usual. (How We know our daughter has had drug does anyone travel 1,000 miles abuse issues in the past, and we sus- without a credit card?) Everyone else I know makes it a pect she's on some harder stuff now. She is losing weight at an alarming regular practice to offer to take the rate, her teeth are going bad, and hosts out for a meal or at the very she's just been kicked out of her least pitch in for groceries. When we apartment — for the fourth time in are guests, we do this. It is courteous, polite and proper. Are we just less than two years. This is stressing the entire fami- old-fashioned? How do we handle Bob's inabilily, even though we're hundreds of miles away. What can we do? How ty to find his pockets? Should we do we cope with this? — Worried mention ahead of time that diners will be paying for their own meals? and Wondering Dear Worried: Is Lana's father My husband has never brought this in the picture? Is he reliable? Would up with his brother, but I think it's he be willing to ask for custody? time Bob became a good guest. He Would you be willing to take the is single, well-educated and lives girl in if her mother is on drugs? We comfortably. Should we just come know Lana is a handful, but part of out and tell him? It would be diffithe reason is because her mother cult to do without ruffling a few may not be a competent parent. We feathers. — New Hampshire Dear New Hampshire: How urge you to make a trip to see your Mailbox does your husband feel about this? Bob is being a freeloader, but if your husband prefers not to confront him (and can afford it), we think you should let him decide the issue. Otherwise, since he's family, and you will continue to host him, it's OK to approach Bob with a lighthearted touch and say that it's his turn to pick up the tab on the next outing. Dear Annie: This is in response to ''Frustrated,'' whose new husband, ''Kevin,'' won't let her buy her own stuff. If he is a control freak, they need counseling, or if necessary, she can get the marriage annulled. Life is too short to live like that. If it were up to my husband, we'd never have anything decent around here. I've replaced some of his and my old stuff and learned to stand up to him. It's not healthy to be married and feel like you are living out a prison sentence. Assuming she's not trying to buy high-end expensive stuff, she needs to ask herself: Would she let a friend treat her that way? No. — Happily Married 20 Years to a Pack Rat Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Office retailer and social network team up Staples Inc. is partnering with LinkedIn, world's largest professional network, to launch SUCCEED: Small Business Network. This online forum will serve as a platform for networking, advice and content for Red Bluff small business professionals. In SUCCEED, Staples and LinkedIn are creating an online community that enables small businesses to connect and collaborate. The group gives small business professionals the opportunity to network and discuss important issues, as well as share success stories and professional hurdles in an online forum created especially for them. SUCCEED will offer valuable information and content in a variety of ways, including a small-business oriented Special Edition of LinkedIn Today, an editorial platform that aggregates and curates highly relevant and targeted news from one million publishers across the web. "At Staples, we're always providing new ways to help our small business customers succeed," said Alison Corcoran, senior vice president marketing, Staples Retail. "Together with LinkedIn, we have the opportunity to develop a vital small business community and build on our relationships with this important segment through the leading social network for professionals." To engage members, the managed group will offer benefits such as industry expert profiles, targeted events, incentive awards, spotlight Q&As, and weekly polls. The content will be managed, and monitored by a dedicated editorial staff at LinkedIn. 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As such, both companies will amplify insights from the group through a combination of memberfacing e-mails and enewsletters, messaging on the Staples LinkedIn Company Page, and posts on social media channels. To join the SUCCEED: Small Business Network, visit www.linkedin.com/succeedsmallbiz. maintain function Researchers DEAR DOCare looking into TOR K: I recently whether certain read that aging drugs might help affects something older people with called "executive executive function function." Could deficits. So far, you please explain the results have what this is? been mixed. DEAR READIn the meanER: Executive Dr. K time, try the folfunction is an by Anthony L. umbrella term for Komaroff, M.D. lowing to improve (or compensate the complex thinking required to make for) your executive funcchoices, plan, initiate tion: — Pay attention to payaction and inhibit impulses. You can think of exec- ing attention. In other utive function as your words, work on maintaining focus. If you're easily "inner CEO." Executive function is distracted, do what you more complicated than it can to remove distracmight seem at first glance. tions. Does your smartLet's look at planning, for phone always need to be example. What do you on? Callers can leave mesneed to do when you sages, and you can pick up plan? You need to set a your emails and text mesgoal. Then you need to sages later. I had one patient who focus on the task at hand and ignore other tasks. found himself so easily You need to ask yourself distracted that he created a if you have any behaviors small enclosed work area that you need to curb to in his basement where he get the task done — and had only a chair, desk and change those behaviors if computer — no books, no phone, no radio, music the answer is "yes." For instance, do you player or TV. He also had tend to get distracted? Do an alarm clock and develyou shy away from asking oped the discipline to get others for help? 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Aerobic exercise the brain to a piece of may be especially benefi- paper or a computer file. Follow these tips, and cial. Lack of sleep scram- your "inner CEO" may bles executive function, so stay in good shape. there's another reason to Dr. Komaroff is a get enough sleep. High blood pressure seems to physician and professor at have a harmful effect on Harvard Medical School. executive function. So if To send questions, go to you have it, make the AskDoctorK.com, or write: lifestyle changes required Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck and take the medicines St., Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. prescribed. Shasta Land Trust plans Annual Wildways Kickoff Party Shasta Land Trust is highlighting local food, local wine and beer, local artists, and local businesses at the annual Wildways Kickoff party, at 6 p.m. on Feb. 23, at the Redding Senior Citizens' Hall. 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