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Friday, January 11, 2013 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Concerned about relative's controlling ways Balance exercises to we don't know what's really Dear Annie: My husgoing on. The pets could be band and I recently moved fine, the daughter might be to the city where my husOK if her biological father band's family lives. One of stepped up, and if Pete's his brothers has been marwife wasn't paying the mortried for two years. (It's his gage, having the house in his third wife.) ''Pete'' is a likname may have been justiable guy who often fied. However, all of these arranges fun activities. Pete moved into his Annie's things together make Pete's behavior questionable, if not wife's house when they pathological. If he is forcing married. She had a teenage daughter, a dog and a cat. by Kathy Mitchell these changes onto his wife Pete got rid of all three. He and Marcy Sugar and she feels trapped, please encourage her to call the is obsessive-compulsive and doesn't like to clean up after Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotpets and couldn't tolerate his wife's line.org) at 1-800-799-SAFE. And daughter. The girl now lives with speak up. Tell Pete you find his her father, who isn't a great parent, behavior disturbing. Dear Annie: My sister and I are so she sometimes sleeps in the park. We don't know what he did with the trying to plan a nice dinner for our animals. Pete also made his wife parents' 50th wedding anniversary. sign over her house because she We would like to invite about 30 wasn't paying her portion of the close family members and friends to a restaurant that our parents like, mortgage and bills. Pete's wife confides in me, and but footing the bill for everyone's while she accepts everything he meal would be difficult. Would it does, she is miserable. My husband be OK to add this sentence to the and I feel guilty hanging out with invitation: ''We chose a restaurant Mr. Good Times when he is creat- that we think is affordable to all. ing so much pain for his wife and Gifts are not required. Your presstepdaughter. How do we continue ence will be gift enough.'' Or do accepting fun invites when we you have another suggestion? — know he is such a control freak? I Want To Do the Right Thing Dear Want: In other words, you realize I can't interfere in his marriage, but I don't want him to think want the guests to pay for their we condone his treatment of his own meals. That necessitates wife and stepdaughter. The fact that rephrasing the entire invitation Pete sees nothing wrong with his because you are asking them to actions is disturbing. What can we host themselves. Try this: ''Please join us in taking our parents out to do? — Worried Sister-in-Law Dear Worried: Abusers often their favorite restaurant.'' Dear Annie: ''A Guy in Vircome across as charming guys. But Mailbox ginia'' asked whether it was OK to look at a woman's tattoo. I'd like to take this opportunity to clarify sexual harassment. It has a very strict legal meaning at the federal and state level in order to regulate how people behave in the workplace. It has nothing to do with a guy checking out some woman in the grocery. It's sexual harassment if the person in authority says, ''If you don't sleep with me, I will fire you'' — or not give you a raise, flunk you, etc. It's sexual harassment if it creates a hostile work environment — a pattern of looking at pornography at work, making lewd comments or sexist jokes, or displaying suggestive calendars or photos. It is not sexual harassment to say, ''I like your hair,'' although a pattern of personal remarks that make someone uncomfortable would eventually constitute a hostile work environment. It is not about what happens outside the workplace. So if you don't want someone to stare at you, don't wear revealing clothes, get a tattoo or wear pink hair. — BTDT in the Northeast Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Casino donates $15,000 to State Theatre Rolling Hills Casino showed its support for the arts in Tehama County by granting $15,000 to the State Theatre for the Arts (STFTA) to help pay off the mortgage of the Red Bluff State Theatre. "The theater is a historic treasure and a cultural anchor for Tehama County," said Kate Grissom, of Rolling Hills. "It provides diverse entertainment opportunities for all ages, and it plays a vital role in performing arts education. The values of the theatre are also in line with the Tehama County Branding project and Expect More Tehama, both of which Rolling Hills Casino has played proud leadership roles. Our donation will help ensure that the theatre continues to play a vital role in our community, and we urge others to contribute to this worthy cause as well." "The theatre is a designated historical building that has embodied the spirit of Tehama County for generations," said Bill Cornelius, president of STFTA. "We would lose an important piece of our environment if it were Courtesy photo Pictured, from left, are Kate Grissom and RJ LaChance of Rolling Hills Casino and Bill Cornelious and Linda Bullock of the State Theatre. gone. We cannot thank RHC enough for being a partner in our community as well as supporting our theatre, the arts, and education." State Theatre has been a beloved part of the Tehama County community since 1946. STFTA, a non profit corporation, purchased the theater for $441,000 in 2011. The group obtained a two-year interest only loan, and have raised $375,000 towards paying it off through donations and events at the theater. Once the loan is paid off, STFTA will focus on completing restoration efforts, including the murals and the outside sign. According to Cornelius, around 80 events have been held at the 750-seat theater in the past 18 months including concerts by Merle Haggard and the Glen Miller band, dance recitals, school celebrations, children's theatre performances and special film showings. Donations to STFTA may be made on the State Theatre website, http://www.statetheatreredbluff.com, or by calling 530-529-2787 or 527-3485. Education News? clerk@redbluffdailynews.com keep from falling using your musDEAR DOCcles. As a result, TOR K: I'm 70 both balance and and regularly do strength suffer. cardiovascular and Simple acts, such weight-training as strolling exercises. 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Accepting grant proposals The Shasta Regional Community Foundation is now accepting grant proposals for several competitive grant making funds. Grants from The McConnell Fund will be awarded in the spring and fall to Modoc, Shasta, Siskiyou, Tehama, and Trinity county organizations. Grants are for the areas of arts and culture, children, youth and education, community vitality, environment, health care, recreation, and social services, primarily funding the purchase of equipment or building-related projects. Grant opportunities are made for small and large projects in each county. All grant requests for the spring cycle must be postmarked by or received at the Community Foundation's Redding office, 1335 Arboretum Drive, Suite B, by 5 p.m. on March 6. Funding guidelines for each program can be found at www.shastarcf.org. For more information contact Kerry Caranci with Shasta Regional Community Foundation at 244-1219.