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Monday, May 10, 2010 – Daily News – 5A FEATURES Tired of his ex at our gatherings Burning mouth difficult to treat Dear Annie: Can you please explain to my hus- band why it’s not a good idea to play nice guy to your ex-wife on Moth- er’s Day? He secretly invited his ex and her mother to my Mother’s Day brunch, know- ing I would object. I have nothing against these women, but I don’t want to share all special occasions with them. He justifies this by saying it’s for his son, even though it means I have no ‘‘special time’’ with my daughter and stepson. Everything includes the ex. I’ve warned him several times that his refusal to let go of his ex-wife will force us into divorce court. Today, I am following through on my threat. Instead of being man enough to admit he made a mistake and apologize, he chose to make excuses, say- ing, ‘‘If you are going to fault me for being a nice guy, that’s your problem.’’ So now his incessant need to seek his ex-wife’s approval has put our mar- riage on the rocks. Ever since I met him, he has gone out of his way to put my daughter and me in Annie’s the middle of fami- ly outings with his ex-wife and her family members. We even spent our summer vacation with his ex-sister- in-law and her hus- band. Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar I feel like an intruder in my own marriage. Worse, he has been picking on my daughter, a normal teenager and a good kid who stays out of trouble. I think deep down he’s hoping to chase us off so he can go back to his ex-wife without looking like the bad guy. Well, he’s going to get his wish. — The Ex-Mrs. in New York Dear New York: We understand why your hus- band might want to be nice to his son’s mother, but all this togetherness is a bit much. You could be right about his motives, and one way to find out is through counseling. Ask him to go with you to work on the problems in your marriage before it is too late. If he refuses, go without him, and make sure you are mak- ing the best choices for yourself and your daughter. Dear Annie: I have a few friends who think it’s OK to take a doggie bag home from a buffet. They carry a plastic bag with them in order to put food in it and then stick it in their purses when they leave the restaurant. Is this stealing? Can a person be arrested for it? — Questioning in Mis- souri Dear Missouri: This is up to the restaurant. Most places provide a doggie bag to hold leftovers from a sit- down meal for which you have paid. The cost of a buf- fet, however, assumes the food will be eaten at the restaurant. If you are curi- ous, ask the management what their policy is and what they do about those who don’t follow it. Dear Annie: Thank you for your advice to ‘‘Almost 21,’’ whose friends are pres- suring her to binge drink on her 21st birthday. Our hand- some, intelligent, successful son died at age 34 from binge drinking. He was a big guy, tall and muscular, and looked the picture of health. We knew he liked to party and warned him against drinking too much, but he said his friends ‘‘watched his back.’’ Well, the night he died, those friends put him in a recliner to sleep it off and then ignored him. By the time they realized he was not breathing and called 911, it was too late. PAID POLITICAL ADVERTISEMENT FOR JUDGE OF THE SUPERIOR COURT OFFICE TWO, 2010 William Murphy 30 years experience as an attorney. 23 years as a public servant. Experienced. Independent & Fair. Paid for by the committee to elect William Murphy Experience and Temperament Count WilliamMurphy4Judge.com DEAR DR. GOTT: I am a 67-year-old female. Starting around Thanks- giving 2009, I have had a burning on the inside of my bottom lip. I hadn’t been sick, and the only prescription I was taking at the time was a hormone. I also took over-the-counter Benadryl (I have bad aller- gies) and something for my stomach. My doctor diagnosed me with glossopyrosis. He has tried several prescrip- tions, but they only work for a few days. The newest was Nystatin with Benadryl and tetracycline, plus four others that I don’t remember. It only helped for two days. I always use the med- ications as directed and never eat spicy foods. My ear-nose-and-throat doctor says sometimes it resolves itself but can reappear. I have not seen this topic in your column before but am hoping you have some suggestions. DEAR READER: Glossopyrosis is also known as burning-tongue syndrome, which is anoth- er name for burning-mouth syndrome (BMS). To con- fuse the issue further, this condition is also known as glossodynia, stomatody- nia, scalded-mouth syn- drome and burning-lips syndrome. Despite the plethora of names, the con- dition is defined as a chronic burning pain of the tongue, gums, lips, inside of the cheeks, roof of the mouth or the entire mouth. The cause of BMS often cannot be identified, mak- ing treatment more difficult. Control is possible, however. Occasionally, symptoms cease on their own or become less fre- quent or severe. Dr. Peter Gott Symptoms include increased thirst, a tingling or numb sensation of the mouth or tip of the tongue, mouth pain that worsens as the day progresses, loss of taste, taste changes (bitter, metallic, etc.), a sore mouth, a sensation of mouth dryness and, most notably, a burning sensa- tion of part or all of the mouth. Symptoms may occur in patterns that worsen during the day, come and go throughout the day (sometimes with pain-free days) or pain that begins upon waking and persists at the same level through- out the day. COMPLETE AUTO REPAIR All makes and models. We perform dealer recommened 30K, 60K, 90K SERVICES AT LOWER PRICES Smog Check starting at $ (most cars and pick-ups) 2995 + cert. Pass or FREE retest 527-9841 • 195 S. Main St. There are three types of BMS: primary, idiopathic and secondary. Primary is thought to be related to problems with taste and sensory nerves. Idiopathic means no identifiable cause. Secondary is caused by an underlying medical condition and is most easi- ly linked to dry mouth, the use of dentures, nerve damage, nutritional defi- ciencies, allergies, gastroe- sophageal reflux disease, psychological factors, cer- tain medications, hormon- al imbalances, excessive mouth irritation, oral habits (such as grinding the teeth) or other oral con- ditions. Treatment options include B vitamins, saliva- replacement products, treatment of any contribut- ing underlying medical condition, special oral rinses or mouth- washes, capsaicin, cognitive behav- ioral therapy and more. Home reme- dies include drink- ing extra fluids to ease mouth dry- ness, reducing stress, changing toothpaste brands, and avoiding tobacco, products that contain cinnamon or mint, and acidic foods and liquids such as citrus fruits and juices, sodas, coffee and tomatoes. If you have not already done so, sit down with your doctor to discuss any medications you may be taking that could cause BMS. Request testing to determine if there is a underlying cause. If there isn’t, continue to work with your physician to determine which medica- tion or combination pro- vides control and relief. It may take some time, but hang in there and you will likely find the right modi- fication. 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