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Saturday, May 8, 2010 – Daily News – 5A FEATURES Floozy daughter deceiving kids Cat scratch fever? Dear Annie: My wife’s daugh- ter, ‘‘Susan,’’ recently took her two young chil- dren and moved out of the home she shared with our wonderful son-in-law. She has been having an affair with a charming friend of theirs. Susan now claims she has been unhappy in her marriage for four years and down- plays the significance of the affair. Meanwhile, the charming friend left his wife the same day Susan moved out. Everyone in the family is shocked, but Susan has a network of girlfriends who encourage her on her ‘‘path of self-discovery.’’ The kids have been told that Mommy and Daddy are fighting and taking a break from each other. Susan has been advised by a counselor not to introduce Mr. Charm to the kids for at least a year. Do you agree with the advice they are getting to keep the truth from the kids? We have been told that they are too young to process the intricacies of adult relationships, and that knowing the truth will cause them to take sides. On the other hand, not telling them makes the rest of us conspirators in maintaining a deception that will one day come to light. How should we respond to Susan’s desire that we eventually inte- grate Mr. Charm into the family? In my heart, I’d like to strangle him, and my wife would prefer to Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar never see him again. But of course, that would estrange us from Susan, which we do not want. Fur- thermore, Susan insists her coun- selor says we should distance ourselves from our son-in-law, which, frankly, we have no intention of doing. Since any family member who reads this will know exactly who is writing, I’ll sign it — Transparent in Portsmouth Dear Transparent: As much as you would like to punish Susan for her affair, please don’t do it by telling the children Mommy has been cheat- ing. It is not a lie to say their parents are fighting and taking a break. If she stays with Mr. Charm, you will have to allow him into the family if you wish to see Susan and the grandchildren. You do not have to alienate your son- in-law entirely, but for the near future, you should not invite him to family functions where Susan will be present. She may be behaving terribly, but she is still your wife’s daughter. Dear Annie: My hus- band has the bad habit of not closing doors — kitchen cabinets, file drawers, closets, etc. Do other women experience this? I try to ignore it, but I worry someone will get hurt. — Help Dear Help: If you’re lucky, your husband will smack his head on one of those doors and remember to close it next time. Every person has at least U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service today issued a request for grant pro- posals from federally recognized Tribes for projects that will conserve fish and wildlife resources. 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Accepting state pay programs & cash pay, etc. BLOWOUT MINI one bad habit. Your hus- band can be ‘‘trained,’’ but it will take effort. You’ll have to sweetly call him every single time you see an open door and ask him to close it. Repetition and consistency are the keys, and progress won’t happen overnight. While you will be counting on him to shape up, he’ll be counting on you to give up. Dear Annie: I have a suggestion for ‘‘Ken- tucky,’’ who wondered what to do with her beau- tiful wedding dress. I have three sons. I allowed each bride to pick out what she wanted made from my wedding dress. The first used the dress to make the two pillows for the ring bearers. The sec- ond wanted a beautiful padded photo album. The third asked for a covered padded picture frame in which to display their wedding photograph. Other suggestions are a basket for the flower girl or an altar cloth to be used in church during the cere- mony. I still have a little material and lace left, which may someday be used to create something special for the weddings of my two granddaugh- ters. — Wisconsin Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.n et, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Applications for wildlife grants sought Of this total, more than $2 million went to nine Tribes in California and three in Nevada. Grant awards and summaries of projects in California and Nevada are available at: http://www.fws.gov/cno/press/release .cfm?rid=55. Proposals and grant applications must be postmarked by Sept. 1. The maximum award for any one project under this program is $200,000. More information about the pro- gram in California is available from the Pacific Southwest Region’s Tribal Partnerships Coordinator David Wooten, at david_wooten@fws.gov. To obtain a copy of the grant appli- cation kit, visit http://www.fws.gov/nativeamerican. DEAR DR. GOTT: I have been diagnosed with cat-scratch fever. Could you explain the disease and its side effects? How long will it last, and what treatment is avail- able? DEAR READER: Cat-scratch disease (CSD) is the result of a bacterial infection known as Bar- tonella henselae. Surprisingly, about 40 percent of all cats carry the bacteria in their saliva at some point in their lives, with kittens being more likely to be infected than adult cats; however, neither commonly show any signs of illness. Dr. Peter Gott Most people contract CSD through bites and scratches; however, it is also pos- sible to contract it by petting an infected feline and then rubbing your eyes. Symptoms include fever, nausea, chills, headache, poor appetite, fatigue, vomiting and inflammation of the lymph nodes. People with a compromised immune system such as HIV/AIDS, organ-trans- plant patients and those receiving chemotherapy are at greater risk of devel- oping abnormal blood-vessel growths that resemble tumors after becoming infected. These masses can cause severe organ inflammation and lead to a host of other issues. In the healthy person, however, CSD should resolve on its own without treatment. If lymph-node involvement remains, a patient might require prescrip- tion antibiotics for up to a month. The key is to have your physician make a correct diagnosis, receive antibiotics if appropriate, and take precautions at home by preventing all cats from licking a scratch or open wound on your body; avoiding rough play that might induce the cat to scratch; and washing your hands after playing with the animal. By all means, enjoy your cat, but take precau- tions to ensure your good health. DEAR DR. GOTT: I am a 54-year-old male. I’ve had ED problems for about 10 years, resolved through the use of Viagra. But why? I do have low testosterone lev- els, for which I take injections, but for the most part I am healthy, fit, not overweight, a nonsmoker, a nonalcoholic-beverage drinker and, per my physician, do not suf- fer from any other cardiovascular prob- lems. So why do I have blood-flow prob- lems in this one department? DEAR READER: Erectile dysfunction (ED) affects almost 30 million American men. Almost every man will experience difficulty achieving and maintaining an erection at some stage of his life. This is normal when the instances are infrequent. Testosterone levels decline after about the age of 40. Low testosterone is identi- fied as less than 300 nanograms per deciliter of blood. Symptoms, as I am sure you are aware, include ED, reduced libido, fatigue and mood swings, much the same as women going through menopause. Testosterone replacement to bring deficient levels to within normal range can be accom- plished through a skin gel, skin patch, oral tablets or injection. The causes for impotence fall into three broad categories — an inadequate flow of blood, a ner- vous system dysfunction and hor- monal abnormalities. Medical conditions that may contribute to the condition include arteriosclerosis in the lower portion of the body, prostate can- cer, stress, anxiety, depression, diabetes, hypertension, liver disease, alcoholism and kidney failure. A great number of medications also have impotence as a side effect. Our bodies change as we age, and what was taken successfully in the past might not be so successful today. Treatment options are varied. If you suspect a medication might be to blame, speak with your physician to determine if he or she will allow a trial period without the drug. There are a number of prescrip- tion medications available to enhance sex- ual performance or to combat impotence, including mechanical devices, such as vacuum pumps, and penile implants. Another important consideration is coun- seling for both you and your partner. If all physiological possibilities have been ruled out, you might consider seeing a sex ther- apist, psychiatrist or psychologist. You may have a degree of stress in your life you are unaware of, and certainly the per- ception of failure is a possibility. Some- times just speaking with your partner or a third-party therapist will help alleviate issues and solve the problem. Make another appointment with your primary-care physician. If you haven’t had complete blood work performed recently, ask about scheduling it. Get your blood pressure checked and a complete examina- tion. Give a therapist a try. Once you iden- tify the possible source for the impotence, the faster you can get on with your life in a way you will approve of. To provide related information, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report “Erectile Dysfunction.” Other readers who would like a copy should send a self- addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092-0167. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDr- GottMD.com. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com. 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