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"But you are going to see a lot of the needs when you are actu- ally in it," she said. "I guess what fuels it (her passion to help) is that same basic need. That need has not gone away. And we keep adding things to what we are trying to accom- plish. "We got a little criticism when we first started about handouts and 'That's not solving the prob- lem.' No, handouts don't neces- sarily solve the problem, but they give you an avenue or a way to make things more con- ducive to solving the problem, because if you haven't eaten or are busy worrying about your clothes not fitting or somebody is going to pick on you and those kinds of things." She remembers one little boy who was sleeping on a pallet of stuffed animals because that was all grandma had when she got him. "But if you make it a little bit easier for them to go to school and learn — to be ready to be there, to be focused on what they are doing, then you have made it a little better," Whitley said. "So yeah, you have to do some of the handouts. "They have to have their basic needs met. I think the fuel is just continuing to find ways to break that cycle — how can we put resources in front of these kids who otherwise might not get them. There are so many things to do that we have not run out yet." • She thinks the negative reac- tions people get when they work to serve others is because of blinders and people with the mindset of, "If I don't think about it, then I don't have to worry about it," she said. "You know, 'I have a lot going on and am trying to make ends meet as it is, everybody is kind of struggling anyway,'" she said. "'If I don't really worry about what you are doing, then you just go ahead and do it.' If you are an adult and not taking care of yourself, then maybe there is an argument there. "I think the one, maybe, sav- ing grace that makes a differ- ence with us is that it is for the kids. I think more people have more tolerance for that because it's not their fault. If somebody is not being taken care of and they are under the age of 18, there is obviously nothing they can do about it." Whitley has not been the direct target of negative com- ments. But she still takes the nega- tivity personally, that she is not doing it the right way versus the way someone else thinks it should be done. She recalls a conversation with someone talking about giv- ing away food and backpacks. The persons asked, "When are they ever going to work?" "Again if you don't get an edu- cation, you are not even going to be able to work," she said. "There is nothing you can do if you don't get those basic ele- mentary, secondary educations. It is not a valid argument when talking about children." • She does get discouraged. "That's on me, again, because I need to not take things so per- sonally," Whitley said. "But when you try to put together an event and five people show up or you are trying to raise money and it trickles in. I see a lot of people see stuff on Face- book and everybody is buying it, but you are trying to raise money for kids and nobody wants it. Those are discourag- ing. "But that is when I have to stop and look at (where) we are in our fourth year, and here we sit in this house. We have a space in Faison. We are helping in Rones Chapel at the commu- nity center — all of these things that we are able to do." And her mission all started in the back of her car. She had so many Christmas presents in the back of her car that she could not go shopping for her children that first year. Also, personal care kits were lined up on the hearth in the middle of her dinning room. "I don't have that problem anymore," she said. "Every time we have outgrown something, somebody has stepped up." For example, Best Used Cars provided a van. Connie Wells, who owns the house on North Center Street where All the King's Children is located, knows what Whitley is trying to accomplish so she took the house off the market for two years for her use. The owner of Main Street Salon in Faison also owns the adjoining building and told Whitley that if she would expand into Faison, she would make the building available. "So, everything, if I just keep on remembering, look at what we were able to do, the rest of it doesn't matter — somebody being negative, or thinking you are crazy, why are you doing this because, I don't get paid for doing this," she said. "This is all voluntary, and it's just because it needs to be done. So you just take your lumps and keep on going because it needs to be done." She spends the time needed to get the work done and enjoys it and does what it takes even when it is not enjoyable. • Then there is always the case where everything that could done has been done, but still falls short. "We just had one recently," Whitley said. "There is a girl who needs a tooth fixed. Her guardians are out of the country. I didn't know that when I found out that she was hurting. She doesn't want anybody to know, won't talk about it. "But I guess a teacher noticed that she was in pain, but when you ask her, 'I'm fine. I'm fine.' We reached out to several differ- ent area places." Some said they couldn't help, but then there is that one that says they can absolutely help, Whitley said. An appointment was made, but Whitley was told to make sure the youth had a guardian present. "Now, we have an appoint- ment, and the guardian still has not come back to the area," Whitley said. "So here she is. There is nothing I can do. I have done everything that I can do. I can't take her. I would, and we planned to pay for it. Those are the tough ones, where you feel like you have done everything and everything is set right up. All you have to do is get them there. "Parents have to be responsi- ble. Guardians have to take that responsibility, and some still don't have the means to or — just like this — they are out of place or maybe they don't speak the language, and it's hard to communicate. Those are really our biggest challenges at this point." On the other hand, there have been multiple occasions were everything just kind of fell into place, she said. "You need a bed and all of sud- den somebody texts you and says 'I have a mattress,' or 'I have a twin-size bed,'" Whitley said. "Things you have to have right at that minute, and here it comes." Again, it is not about re- inventing the wheel or trying to take over programs. "There are great people doing great works," she said. "All that we are trying to do is make sure that those folks who are strug- gling at school to serve these kids have the resources. "I hope people know that what we are doing is not trying to take the credit for anything, but just trying to fill the gaps where they exist and making sure that people who need the resources get them." For example, a Faison church conducted a summer feeding program, All the King's Children wanted to help raise money, not take over or take credit for it, she said. Also, Habitat for Humanity has provided a voucher for items from its ReStore. "So if somebody needs a bed, we can specify you are not going in to buy a TV, but you can buy a bed for your child or washing machine or something that you need," she said. "InJoy has done the same thing giving us vouch- ers. I think everybody has been very receptive (to forming part- nerships). People have had sug- gestions of who we should part- ner with and what we should do." For now her focus is on south- ern Wayne and northern Duplin counties, but she gets requests from other areas, too. "We are just reaching a very small portion of people in the two counties," Whitley said. Eventually she would like to see the area they service grow but has concerns about expand- ing until she has more help. "But that will come, it always has," she said. For more information, or to make a donation or volunteer call 919-252-KIDS (5437), visit or All the King's Children Facebook page or send email to info@allthe kings Continued from page 3 The All the King's Children logo hangs on the front of the Holmes House in downtown Mount Olive. In the service of the King

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