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NOVEMBER 30 - DECEMBER 6, 2016 UCW 23 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM WEEKLY HOROSCOPE ADVICE GODDESS Make Vroom For Daddy-- I'm a divorced woman in my 40s, and I just started dating again. I'm seriously tired of it already, after just two dates with two really disappointing guys. I want to cut to the picture in my head — cuddling on the couch and watching Netflix with my new handsome beau. Meeting somebody shouldn't be this hard. I'm launching a new business, and my time seems better spent working than on some crappy date. But I also don't want to be alone forever. — Annoyed Your expectations about how easy it should be to find new love aren't just unrealistic; they're unrealistic by fairy-tale standards. It's "Someday, my prince will come," not "Get crowd control over here pronto for the mob of handsome, fabulous royals who will soon be gathering on my front lawn." Picturing yourself in the cuddly- wuddly life you feel you should already have may be part of the problem. Motivation researcher Gabriele Oettingen finds that fantasizing is often demotivating — fooling our mind into believing that we already have the thing we're dreaming of. Oettingen's research makes a case for combining fantasizing with what I'd call "positive pessimism" — making yourself consider all the things standing in the way of what you want. As Oettingen explains it, thinking concretely about the obstacles we have to overcome helps energize us to tackle them. The reality is, the older you get and the more you expect from a boyfriend the harder it will be to find one. So either buckle down and prepare for the dating grind or do what it takes to immediately have a life partner who will look at you with great adoration: Give your dog salami. Copyright Amy Alkon NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD Democracy in Action While "democracy" in most of America means electing representatives to run government, on Nov. 8 in San Francisco it also expected voters to decide 43 often vague, densely worded "issues" that, according to critics, could better be handled by the professionals who are, after all, elected by those very same voters. Except for hot-button issues like tax increases or hardened legislative gridlock, solutions on these "propositions" (e.g., how certain contractors' fees should be structured, which obscure official has primary responsibility for which obscure job, or the notorious proposition asking whether actors in the tax-paying porno industry must use condoms) would be, in other states, left to elected officials, lessening voter need for a deep dive into civics. [CityLab.com, 11-7-2016] Police Report Inexplicable: (1) The police chief of Bath Township, Ohio, acknowledged the overnight break-in on Oct. 10 or 11 at the University Hospitals Ghent Family Practice, but said nothing was missing. It appeared that an intruder (or intruders) had performed some medical procedure in a clinical office (probably on an ear) because instruments were left in bowls and a surgical glove and medication wrappings tossed into a trash can (and a gown left on a table). (2) A 35-year-old man was detained by police in Vancouver, British Columbia, in October after a home break-in in which the intruder took off his clothes, grabbed some eggs and began preparing a meal. The homeowner, elsewhere in the house, noticed the commotion and the intruder fled (still naked). [WEWS-TV (Cleveland), 10- 27-2016] [CTV News (Vancouver), 10-20-2016] COPY R IGHT CHUCK SHEPPAR D ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, peace of mind may come your way after you square away all of your finances and begin developing a budget for the year to come. Enlist some professional help if necessary. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 Introspection leads you on a quest to find a creative outlet, Taurus. Play to your strengths and ideas will surface, or check in with friends for inspiration. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 Gemini, stick with a course of action even if you have hit a rocky road. Your efforts thus far have been extensive, and you will soon see a light at the end of the tunnel. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 Cancer, if family is not around, surround yourself with friends. This support system will prove invaluable. Express your gratitude to friends for their unwavering support. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 Leo, a different way of thinking may be just the thing you need to solve a problem that's been more puzzling than you expected. Ask others for their point of view. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, before you can be honest with others, you have to be honest with yourself. Take a look at things you might want to change and then forge ahead in that direction. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Libra, if you take a roundabout route, you will still end up at the finish line. And the new perspective this route provides may benefit you in the long run. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Scorpio, you may have to work a little harder to get what you want, but the results can't be denied. Focus your attention on making a name for yourself in your career. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 There is no stopping you when you have a goal in mind, Sagittarius. Call it stubbornness or just dedication, but your ambition may open doors that remain closed to others. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, someone close to you is interested in learning more about what makes you tick. New friendships may develop this week, so approach situations with an open mind. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Aquarius, resist the temptation to bite off more than you can chew. While you might want to prove your ability to multitask, don't do so at a detriment to your health. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Pisces, even if you have rest and relaxation on the brain, celestial forces are pushing you in a different direction. Amy Alkon Chuck Sheppard