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22 UCW MAY 25-31, 2016 WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM ADVICE GODDESS The Litter Prince My boyfriend and I just moved in together, and it's going well, except for how he leaves empty containers and trash everywhere. I asked him to please just put these in the garbage. He did this — for a single day. These empties everywhere are driving me crazy, not because I mind picking them up but because I feel disrespected. It's weird, because he's otherwise sweet and attentive. — Exasperated Psychologists Irwin Silverman and Marion Eals contend that men and women evolved to have differing spatial abilities, corresponding with the sexual divisions of labor — men as hunters and women as gatherers (of salad and appetizers). Experiments by Silverman, Eals, and others support this theory. Men have more distance-oriented visual and navigational abilities, which would have been useful for tracking prey across a big plain. Men also excel at "mental rotation" — turning objects around in their minds — which would have helped them land a spear in a moving four-legged dinner entree before it got away. Women, on the other hand, do far better (sometimes 60 to 70 percent better) on tests of "object location memory" — remembering objects and their placement in a setting. This ability for noticing and recalling detail would have helped them remember wee landmarks pointing back to where to find those yummy grubs. (It's less helpful with a boyfriend who waits to toss trash until it requires a backhoe.) The fact that your boyfriend tidied up upon request suggests he cares about your feelings. His doing that only once maybe just means it isn't a habit. Habits — behaviors we do pretty automatically — get ingrained over time through repeated action. They are triggered by cues in our behavior and environment. You could try to help him make the trash-trashcan association, maybe by one day tacking notes on the empties — like "Hello, Mr. Archeologist. I was enjoyed in 2016." The reality is that he may not always remember, in which case you should remind yourself that a guy who's otherwise "sweet" and "attentive" isn't leaving the mess to mess with you. You and he can also figure out ways he can do his part around the house (washing the cars, bringing in the garbage bins, etc.) so you can pick up after him with a laugh instead of loathing. Someday, you two may bring new life into the world, but it shouldn't be a mystery fungus inside a Chinese food container that got kicked under the bed. Copyright Amy Alkon WEEKLY HOROSCOPES NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD Google filed a U.S. Patent Office application on April 28 for a vision- improvement device in liquid form that, once inserted (i.e., injected directly into the eyeball!), solidifies into not only a lens replacement for the eye but an instrument that carries its own storage, radio and wireless power supply. The idea, according to inventor Andrew Jason Conrad, is to better focus light onto the retina. (The patent process does not assure that the device will ever come to fruition, but it might indicate that Google's parent, Alphabet, is concerned that other inventors might be doing similar work.) [Forbes.com, 4-28-2016] The Entrepreneurial Spirit! Before new parents ruin their baby daughter's chances of future success by giving her "weak" names (such as Polly), they should consult one of several services that recommend more powerful ones (such as Elizabeth). A New York City woman offers personalized naming research for fees starting at several hundred dollars, but a Swiss agency whose primary work is helping to name product brands now offers parents suggestions on their offspring's "brand" (for corporate-like fees beginning at around $29,000). (Parents in South Korea and India traditionally seek baby- naming recommendations from priests, who review religious text, culture and astrology — in exchange for modest offerings.) [Bloomberg.com, 4-19-2016] Entrepreneur.com reported in April the surprising success of "Ship Your Enemies Glitter," in which, for about $10, the startup sends an envelope full of glitter that, when opened, scatters, irritating (or enraging) the recipient. The concept was an overnight sensation, but quickly petered out and was seemingly worthless — until a prescient businessman offered $85,000 for its two assets: (1) a valuable list of customers who might buy similar pranks (such as a cupcake that's really horse manure) and (2) an opportunity at additional waves of customers newly discovering the original glitter product. The $85,000 purchaser now reports sales "in the high six figures." [Entrepreneur. com, 4-20-2016] Compelling Explanations Peter Jensen of Athol, Idaho, filed a lawsuit against the state transportation department in April after his driving privileges were revoked because his car had no license plate. For the inconvenience, he believes he deserves $5.6 million in damages (gold and silver only, please) because, for example, there is nothing about "license plates" in the 10 Commandments. [KREM-TV (Spokane, Wash.), 4-22-2016] COPYRIGHT CHUCK SHEPPARD ARIES - Mar 21/Apr 20 Aries, expect to be very busy in the days ahead. Make a concerted effort to be more aware of what 's around you so that you don 't miss a thing. TAURUS - Apr 21/May 21 Taurus, financial questions keep popping up and you just keep pushing them aside for later. If need be, work with a professional to establish your goals. GEMINI - May 22/Jun 21 Do something out of your comfort zone this week, Gemini. When you do so, you may find out you have a wider array of interests than you first believed. CANCER - Jun 22/Jul 22 Cancer, just when you think you 've figured out how to play the game, they go and change all of the rules on you. Adaptability is one of your biggest strengths. LEO - Jul 23/Aug 23 It 's time to make your love life a priority, Leo. If you 're in a relationship, you may find it needs a little nurturing to get it back to the level it was a few months ago. VIRGO - Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, if you come up against things you don 't understand this week, ask people whose opinions you trust for their points of view. Educating yourself will help you move ahead. LIBRA - Sept 23/Oct 23 Take some time out of your schedule for some much-needed pampering. Whether your idea of special treatment is a massage or simply sleeping in, make it a priority. SCORPIO - Oct 24/Nov 22 Delegation will be your favorite word of the week, Scorpio. When the going gets tough, start delegating the tasks that have you stumped. This will ensure everyone stays productive. SAGITTARIUS - Nov 23/Dec 21 Sagittarius, you may be called upon to lend your special skills to a situation this week. While it may not be a job you relish, you know ultimately it has to get done. CAPRICORN - Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, speak your mind because if you don 't do it others are not going to advocate for your needs. That 's why it 's so important for you to fight for every cause, no matter how small. AQUARIUS - Jan 21/Feb 18 Aquarius, work may be getting on your nerves, but you have to maintain a professional demeanor at all times. It can be challenging, but you will handle it. PISCES - Feb 19/Mar 20 Pisces, a few days away from the daily grind will help you recharge your batteries. Turn off your phone and enjoy the well-deserved respite. Amy Alkon Yummy Sandwiches, Wraps, Paninis, Salads, Pizza and More! Same Great Taste! Same Great Taste! Same Great Taste! www.mynewdeli.com