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May 24, 2016

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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman THEDUPLEX GlennMcCoy ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»I'mamiddle- aged, white, gay man living in West Hollywood. I'd like your advice on the proper way to give a friendly acknowledgment to women as I pass them on the street. I try to make eye contact and smile when I walk past people. However, I often find that women respond in a way that suggests they feel threatened. For example, they look down at the ground. I'm not physically imposing. In West Hol- lywood, in particular, I figured women would assume that I'm gay and just being polite, with no dangerous overtones. Pretending not to see someone seems rude. If I were to ignore a black or Latino man on the street, I would expect them to think I was being racist. Aziz Ansari's show "Mas- ter of None" included an episode where several women felt slighted when a man didn't make eye contact and shake hands with them as he did with their male companions. I realize that I come from a position of safety and privilege that a ran- dom woman walking alone might not enjoy. What's the proper way for me to politely ac- knowledge a woman that lets her know I'm just being friendly? I want polite human contact, but I'm tired of people treating me as though I'm a threat. —HollywoodHello DEAR HOLLYWOOD » Based on my experience hanging out in West Hollywood, if a stranger were to greet me on the street, I'd think, "Wow! You must be new in town." I don't think of LA as a "howdy stranger," kind of place. You are overthinking this. You assume that women don't meet your gaze because they are afraid. You also assume that all women have working gaydar, making gay m en ide ntifi able ; an d also that gay men are nonthreatening because — according to you — (white) gay men never commit crimes. If this is persistent with you, get a friend to test your street vibe (by walking with you), and dial it down, if necessary. Aziz Ansari could no doubt make a great episode for his series from this one question (Aziz, call me?), but you shouldn't create drama. If some women don't return your friendly eye contact, it might be be- cause they're shy, rude or headed to an audition. The answer is for you to be yourself, and to let others be themselves. DEAR AMY » "Torn (Over) Letter" was worried about the contents of a letter his mother had given him with the instructions that he open it after her death. I agree with your advice to open it now in the presence of a therapist. My mother had a simi- lar plan, which was inter- rupted by other circum- stances, but I learned she was intending to punish me from the grave. It was a cruel and cowardly act, and it still hurts. — Sad Daughter DEAR SAD » I am very sorry. Man has to wonder why his 'Hollywood hello' went badly You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Gemini(May21-June20) — A financial move will help get rid of overdue bills. Using com- mon sense and doing your own fact-finding will ensure the best results. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Team up with someone who offers interesting options. Using alternative means and methods to get ahead will impress people looking for something unusual. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — You will crave something new. Join a group or get involved in an activity that promotes meet- ing new people or presenting what you have to offer. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Taking an interest in something you used to enjoy doing will encourage you to reunite with someone from your past. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Put your energy into events and activities that promote personal progress and development. Pooling your resources with an important someone will help you build a better future. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Don't feel you have to do everything yourself. Be open to suggestions, as it will help you expand an innovative idea that you've been contemplating. Don't be afraid to do things. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Don't let the actions of others cause you to be con- fused. Separate from the crowd and focus on self-awareness and physical well-being. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Use your imagination when it comes to financial mat- ters, personal assets and home improvements. By doing things differently, you will find a way to cut costs and build a secure future. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Trust in your abilities. You have the passion, stamina and wherewithal to bring about pos- itive changes that will improve your personal and professional lives. Romance is encouraged. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Your power of persuasion will be stellar, but make sure that you have an ironclad plan in place before you entice others to follow your lead. A mistake will lead to discord. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Keep your emotions out of the equation when dealing with friends, relatives and neighbors. Take a moment to assess your situation and gain insight. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — You'll crave excitement and adventure. Sign up for some- thing that will motivate you to interact with others and share ideas. Keeping your plans a secret won't help you make headway. Horoscope By Eugenia Last TUESDAY, MAY 24 TUESDAY,MAY24,2016 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B

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