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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Irecently joined a wonderful family when I married a great man. Everything's perfect — except for his nephew. The boy is not old enough to be in school yet, but this poor little guy has been coddled by his mother since the day he was born. He has been taught that if you scream, cry and whine long enough, mommy will come to the rescue bearing gifts and consolations. It has been brought to her attention numerous times by family members that discipline can be a good thing for a child, and that his behavior is essentially ruining family gatherings (yet they both continue to be invited). I can't stand to be in the same room with this child for more than an hour (and I usually adore children), and as a result my husband and I have to excuse ourselves early from gatherings if the child is present. I realize this is not the child's fault, but I have recently made the deci- sion that he will not be welcome in my home. Is there a tactful way to help guide his mother toward better parenting strategies? —HadituptoHere DEAR HAD IT » This boy is (I assume) 3 or 4 years old. He will definitely ma- ture. Do you have similar potential? I wonder. It is much easier to be around (and "adore") a well-behaved child than an out-of-control one, but when it comes to family — kids are just the start. You cannot single out one child to exclude from your home (especially if there are other children in the extended family) without family members noticing and judging you. You're the adult. Work harder to be more toler- ant. And if you don't want to have this child in your home, you'll have to tell his parents that they'll need to get a sitter if they want to come over. DEAR AMY » Although I care about my mother-in- law, I'm starting to resent her. She has continuous money troubles and is always bringing up her financial issues in front of the family. This makes the entire family uncom- fortable because she's always asking for money, and yet she spends lavishly. Recently she borrowed a large sum from my husband and me and then told us that she splurged and bought an expensive appliance she doesn't need. We have a family of our own to support! How do I let her know that this behavior has to stop — without hurting our family relationship? — Appalled DEAR APPALLED » This is very simple. Her financial habits are damaging your own finances, as well as your relationship with her. Tell her that when she repays the last loan, you will consider lending to her again. She needs a familywide intervention and professional financial counseling more than she needs another cash infusion. Your enabling is harmful to her. So stop. Wife cannot stand husband's tantrum-throwing nephew You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Scorpio(Oct.24-Nov.22) — Don't allow anyone to put restrictions on you. It will be obvious to everyone that you mean business if you are firm and forthright. Be strong. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Stop letting old ideas and negativity hold you back. Tie up loose ends and give yourself a chance to move forward. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — You will be surrounded by negative opinions. Your creativ- ity and ingenuity will help you find a way around any obstacles you encounter. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Stand your ground if anyone tries to stymie your plans. It's your future, and you have a right to choose your direction. Exer- cise your right to have a voice. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — A financial or legal matter requires attention. Don't be deterred by friends or colleagues who try to change your mind. You know what's right. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Money matters look favorable. If a partnership isn't running smoothly, it would be best to examine it carefully. Consider whether you want to pursue or walk away from someone you are questioning. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — You can get your way and surpass opponents if you keep your emotions in check. You will be able to outmaneuver and outsmart anyone if you stick to the facts and remain calm. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Activities with youngsters will brighten your day. Don't be sur- prised if your current situation goes through an unexpected change. Finish any incomplete tasks that you've been avoiding. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You can achieve greater popularity at a work or network- ing event. You will come up with original solutions to perplexing situations that will impress even your toughest skeptics. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Be- fore you commit to purchasing property or a luxury item, check the fine print. Shop around for the best deal. You will be torn between two opposing ideas, so weigh the pros and cons. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Change your routine by making a point to do things differently. You will learn a lot from a friend, relative or co-worker regard- ing the best way to tackle your projects. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Don't be intimidated by someone with more experience than you. You are intelligent and intuitive, and a new opportunity is right around the corner. Don't back down; move forward. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, OCT. 25 SATURDAY, OCTOBER 25, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 7 B

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