Beta Theta Pi - Westminster College

BQP Page 5 D an Stanley '67 and his wife, Melanie, have made a career out of sharing the importance of etiquette to generations who have seemed to take a turn towards casualness. A recent newspaper article in the Joplin Regional Business Journal written by David Mink discussed Dan and Melanie's advice on holiday etiquette for young professionals. Their advice might serve our Beta Theta Pi undergraduate brothers well. The foundation of Dan and Melanie's advice on etiquette is based on a firm belief in the casualness of today's generations. "Younger generations have really embraced casualness to the 'nth degree," Dan says. "Society has created this casualness about everything, but etiquette is about showing appreciation and showing respect, and that's really everything that Melanie and I believe in." Here is some of the Stanley's advice that will help Alpha Delta brothers make a lasting impression. alumnus and Wife instruct on etiquette Spotlight on Dan Stanley '67 Following these etiquette guidelines can help Alpha Delta Brothers impress older generations and those found in the higher executive offices. Dan and Melanie are scheduled to present at the Beta House either late spring or early fall with Kappa Alpha Theta sorority. Dan Stanley can be reached by e-mail at dstanley@yahoo.com. remember to rSVp "Pay attention to what the invitation says and respond to it," Melanie says. "That is really key, because it's something that's become lax over the years. Hosts are planning carefully for food and drinks, and your RSVP is really important to them." Always be sure to RSVP whether you are attending or not. arrive on time "Always arrive on time. Do not arrive early. It's better to be a little late than to arrive early," the Stanleys instruct. Bring a gift Bringing a gift is a great way for a good first impression. If invited to a dinner, always ask the hostess if you can contribute something. "Whether or not the answer is no, always bring a gift," Dan says. "Bring a bottle of wine. It doesn't need to be expensive at all. Or bring a box of chocolates —the smallest one. It doesn't have to be expensive. It's a thought, a gesture. It's showing appreciation and respect for your host and the event." Be thankful "Immediately talk to the host or hostess. Thank them for inviting you and let them know you've arrived." Thank them again upon departure. Drink in moderation Serving drinks at a party is fairly standard, so it is important to know your limits. "There have been millions of careers either ended or severely damaged by behavior at holiday parties simply because people didn't use good judgment." Try to stay at two drinks, even if there is an open bar. "You definitely need to be in control at all times." Follow up With a handwritten note "A handwritten note is still the most powerful communication media in the world. It can be three sentences, but it's not e-mailed, it's not texted, and it's not tweeted. It's handwritten and it can make a big impression." Because handwritten notes are so rare, the Stanleys believe "yours will stand out. It will have a tremendous impact."

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